Lately, it has hurt to read articles and stories on the Internet – there is so much pain, anger, and fear. Not just in how we seem to be communicating with other human beings, but even internally as we try to figure out what we feel and how to take action. It is so hard to be informed yet not let the news poison us.
I had stopped my Sunday Reads because everything felt like it was too harsh, without enough love, to share on a website where I want to encourage us to be thoughtful and kind purveyors of a good life. But there IS some good stuff out there, so let’s share it…Towards a good life…
In parenting, I loved this listicle on insights of remarkable parents that recently came across my feed! It is so sweet and so true, yet so hard to follow. Oh, especially number 10.
In writing, Literary Hub had a great discussion-based article on writing about your children. As you know if you have been my friend here for awhile, I topped writing about and posting pictures of my kids. Not that parenting doesn’t shape me and I won’t post parenting-related articles, but sharing my actual KIDS seems wrong. I think about the defining moments of my life and how mortified I would have been/would be to have had my mother write about them. But I may be wrong! Perhaps it may have been cathartic. That’s what this article gets into…
The risk of writing about your children is not treating them with the respect you’d give your parents or other family members. In fact, we owe our children more than we owe anyone else, in the way that, in real life, we’re more responsible to and for our children. They expect us to take care of them. We are required to have their best interests in mind for their whole lives, and that’s not necessarily true about anyone else.
I think every writer has to decide for themselves but should do so thoughtfully. Given how real life informs what we write about, and where our passion and personal experience lie, I don’t think you can reject parenting as a topic. But, how much should be kept private?
In blogging, while I have no problems coming up with content ideas (my problem is the time to sit down and put them together), I pinned Graceful Coffee’s post on 30 Blog Post Ideas. I would rather post something good for you all than a crappy post simply to get something up. This will help me ensure I am being not crappy (new official blog subtitle: Trying to be Not Crappy).
In big things that make you think, the more I read and think and raise my kids, the more of an advocate I become for Digital Minimalism. I know, crazy when my work and passion is to write things that appear on the Internet. But Cal Newport’s article in Digital Minimalism is a wonderful approach that everyone should read. What is a minimalist, really? And all those bullet points are priceless gems of wisdom that we should all have our own answers to. The pretty wrap up…
The above list, and much of the thinking behind it, is still tentative. I should also emphasize again that it applies almost exclusively to the role of digital technology in your personal life, and is largely distinct from my thinking about how to integrate technologies productively in the professional sphere.
But there’s something coherent lurking in the background here that I will continue to work through.
Digital minimalism, for example, has helped me better understand some of the decisions I’ve made in my own online life (such as my embrace of blogging and rejection of major social media platforms), while at the same time challenging me with areas where I could be leveraging new technologies to even better support some of my core principles. In other words, like any productive philosophy, it gives me both clarity and homework.
The bottom line of this general thinking is that a simple, carefully curated, minimalist digital life is not a rejection of technology or a reactionary act of skepticism; it is, by contrast, an embrace of the immense value these new tools can offer…if we’re willing to do the hard work of figuring out how to best leverage them on behalf of the things we truly care about.
In the ridiculous, don’t put jade eggs in your vagina. (While this is a real article, just seeing if you are still paying attention…)
I have been a writing phenom lately, churning out six articles this week and editing many more. If you want to read more of my stuff, feel free to head on over to North Brunswick Magazine or StarNews. The PortCityDaily featured my NY Food Tours travel article (which was even promoted on the local radio); I wrote a fun piece for the new SENC magazine on the new bohemians and why they make me want to check out and hit the road.
I hope you all have had a restorative weekend, filled with love and kindness, and I can’t wait to tackle this week!