While you read this, I am most likely off in pursuit of the life Beyond the Comfort Zone, getting to know some new, beautiful faces on a Girls’ Weekend. More on that later, but for now, let’s chat about some things out there on the Internet that caught my eye this week.
In writing, I loved this piece on Writing Every Day, from, of all places, Oprah.com (not that there is anything wrong with Oprah.com, just not my first stop for writing inspiration). I am actually working on my own article for a site I love on the discipline of writing every day, and how hard it is to keep. Mostly, I make excuses. This author’s idea of a contract with a colleague is fascinating. Any writer friends of mine out there interested? Shoot me a message!
In parenting, Salon.com, as always, gets blunt. I am curious to know what you think about this article:
Here’s what’s weird. We parents are spending more and more time and money on parenting, but when you look at the results, things are getting worse, not better. American kids are now much more likely to be diagnosed with ADHD or bipolar disorder or other psychiatric disorders than they were 25 years ago, and they are heavier and less fit than they were 25 years ago. Long-term outcome studies suggest that American kids are now less resilient and more fragile than they used to be.
Is this essay forcing us to confront some ugly truths about parenting in our society, or is it controversial bait? Who will read the book?
In blogging, Melissa made me applaud, and think a little harder about my time choices, with her post on The Truth about Growing Your Blog Biz. If you haven’t met Melissa yet, she is successful at blogging yet also down to earth and incredibly supportive of all bloggers, no matter how big their biz is.
As more and more couples meet online or through dating apps, texting has become not only a means of seduction, but also the foundation upon which a future might be built. Whether a witty repartee is established in those first few messages on Tinder or Bumble could be the first step to a lasting relationship.
And the problems persist among long-term couples for whom texting and emailing have in many ways supplanted face-to-face conversations. In a 2015 poll by the Gravitate Research Group, 80% of Americans said they prefer texting to voice calls, and the average American spends 26 minutes texting every day.
So texting compatibility can be an important signifier of how communication would work in a long-term relationship.
I am not sure if my husband and I would have had textual chemistry when we met (remember: we met before smartphones were invented), but I like to think we would.
By the way, if you haven’t actually been on my site lately, I am slowly making some changes and would love some feedback. Over the past three years of having this blog and exploring life as a “writer,” it feels like my goals are clearer as well as cosmically supported. In the past month between the Bible study I am doing and the Lara Casey Powersheets I have, well, I may now know where I am going. At least, for a spell. As I told my friend Amy Dillon,”I am always a mess and changing my mind about life, but I think that *is* the constant now?”
Swing by and say “hi” on the site, let me know what you think is working and what isn’t. And then be sure to sign up for my email list. There are a gaggle of you waiting to hear from me there and I think I am ready to talk. I want an opportunity to create a community with you, not constantly talk AT you, and now that I understand what that should look like, I think we can use the inbox to get there. Agreed?
One final note on that: this blog is simply me at my rawest. I struggle with whether my “thing” here should be essays, writing practice, book reviews, lifestyle pieces, or WHAT! WHAT IS IT! But the truth is: it is all those things. I am a modern mom who happens to love writing and connecting. So I will share what all my modern mom friends and I think and talk about. As it turns out, that is everything. All those things. Sometimes I will be tired and overwhelmed and I will take a break. And sometimes I will have more than I feel I can possibly give to the world in one sitting. Ebb and flow – Bob and weave.
But, as always, I thank you for connecting with me, sharing your heart and minds with me, and growing my world. I come to this blog every day with a profound feeling of gratitude.
Now let’s have a great week!